September 21 2022

Series: Relationships


Sis. Christina Mercer talked about an experience that she had a week ago….she stated that she/we need to pray and ask God for us to…

  1. See God for who He is….
  2. See ourselves as God sees us – no condemnation – Romans 8:1
  3. Seeing others as God sees them

……these three things boil down to having the right perspectives.


What is perspective- simply a point of view…a particular way of thinking about something.


  1. See God for who He is….Psalms 18:30

How do I see God for who He is? I must know him personally. I must begin a relationship with Him.

Personally ways I’ve learned who God is on my journey so far:

God is faithful – “O Lord, you are my God; I will exalt you and praise your name, for in perfect faithfulness you have done marvelous things, things planned long ago” Isaiah 25:1 Because God is faithful, we can always rely on Him and trust Him. His faithfulness means He will never leave us, even if we walk away from Him.

He is a loving Father – one of my favorite scriptures is in Lamentations 3:32-33, I believe it shows how He is our Father – “Because the Master won’t ever walk out and fail to return. If He works severely, he also works tenderly. His stockpiles of loyal love are immense.”


  1. See ourselves as God sees us – no condemnation – Romans 8:1 NIV(“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”)

Personally, ways I’ve learned how God sees me on my journey so far, and I’ll be honest I struggle remembering these things, but it’s a journey:


We are a Daughter or son of God, joint heirs with Jesus, we share the inheritance (Romans 8:17 NIV “Now if we are children, then we are heirs – heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ,..”)

Psalms 139:14, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, I know that full well” – God made all the delicate, inner parts of my body. He knew everything about me as He was painstakingly designing me with such care. We were created with great reverence, with respect, we were made unique, there is only one of you uniquely designed by the Creator of all things. Each of us were created and designed with a purpose.

Remember when putting ourselves down, and women are especially experts on this: We are enough in God – Because He is enough, He created us in His image, so we are enough

God sees us through the blood of Jesus, isn’t that so beautiful. When God looks at me, he isn’t seeing all my mistakes and failures, Jesus covers all of that with his blood. God is looking at me as his child, whom he loves so much. When I look at my daughters, I don’t see their failures, or remember times they may have disappointed me, I look at them and think, “Wow, look at these beautiful, strong and confident women, who have so much love in their hearts for others, who love me and their father, I’m so proud of the women they have become.

When God looks at me he sees me for who I am:

  • First and foremost, I am his beloved child
  • I am chosen, adopted into His family through Jesus
  • I am valuable, He calls me his workmanship
  • I am redeemed, I’m so valuable to God, he purchased me with the precious blood of his only son
  • I am a new person in Jesus Christ, because of salvation, I gain a new identity and a whole new life
  • I am a friend of God, “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his masters business, Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father, I have made known to you.” (John 15:15)


  1. Seeing others as God sees them. -Psalms 86:5

The Power of Understanding others

When you are willing to understand others a new vision and hope will emerge.

For example, when you are in a relationship or friendships; there can be moments where you are hurt, offended, or betrayed. You may even take the point of view “they are my enemy.” However, if we are seeing others as God sees them, they are not God’s enemy, they are God’s son or daughter, and this in my opinion is not an easy perspective to have. Often times when someone we love hurts us, it isn’t coming from a place of malice or with intent to cause harm, this isn’t always easy to understand. In my own life, I know my husband and I have talked about this, that usually when we are upset about something, we are upset at ourselves, but unfortunately the person we love, is the one we are expressing our frustration towards. In these moments, if you can take the time to step back and observe the situation, the points of view shared, etc., you may have a realization of what led you to the place you find yourself in –

If God looks at me through the blood of Jesus, and that is His perspective, then my goal on this journey is to look at others as God sees them, just like he sees me, which is through the blood of Jesus. Man o man, Lord help me!

Once we understand why that person acts that way, nothing has changed.

Compassion shows up with perseverance to understand someone.

We look around, and this couple or this person seems to have it all together, and some people do. People will grab a book, go to a seminar, or listen to a podcast in hopes of learning a new method to achieve what they perceive someone else to have. You should always want a relationship to grow. But it will not be a quick fix; this works like a Goody or BC powder. It works very quickly, but the real solution may be changing our diet and exercising more so that headaches or back stop hurting because of our extra weight. So many times, our perspective of a relationship is the thing that hurts the relationship.


What is going on between our ears lies the problem. Wrong thinking always produces bad results. Whenever your expectation takes you one place and your experience takes you somewhere else you experience a “meltdown”


Genesis 3:12 – The man replied, “The woman whom you put here with me—she gave me fruit from the tree, so I ate it.” 13The LORD God then asked the woman: What is this you have done? The woman answered, “The snake tricked me, so I ate it.” – what should everyone’s perspective have been?

You must change your perspective of people and look in the mirror of Jesus. We should have the perspective of working on ourselves, relationships, and marriages because they hold/have value.

Have you ever walked by a mirror and seen that your hair is out of place or salad stuck in between your teeth or your slip hanging.? Mirrors can be real lifesavers. Jesus is the mirror I want to reflect; I want people to see Jesus.

II Corinthians 3:18 TPT, “We can all draw close to him with the veil removed from our faces. And with no veil we all become like mirrors who brightly reflect the glory of the Lord Jesus.”


Have you ever planned to meet someone and arrive early? You are waiting and waiting. The person you are meeting calls and says, ‘where are you? In that second, you realize that you are in the wrong place. Many are in the wrong place mentally regarding themselves or their relationships. That’s what this lesson is all about having the God Perspective of God, ourself and others.

Learning about Forgiveness and redemption!!


One of my favorite passages that teaches me about forgiveness and redemption, and how God has given so much to me, I must learn from this passage and apply it to my own life: Psalms 103:1-  “O my soul, bless God, don’t forget a single blessing! He forgives your sins – every one. He heals your diseases – every one. He redeems you from hell – saves your life! He crowns you with love and mercy – a paradise crown. He wraps you in goodness – beauty eternal. He renews your youth – You’re always young in his presence. God makes everything come out right; he puts victims back on their feet. ……God is sheer mercy and grace; not easily angered, he’s rich in love. He doesn’t endlessly nag and scold, nor hold grudges forever. He doesn’t treat us as our sins deserve, nor pay us back in full for our wrongs. As high as the heave is over the earth, so strong is his love to those who fear him. As far as sunrise is from sunset, he has separated us from our sins. As parents feel for their children, God feels for those who fear him.



Last story: Young boy lived with his mother and grandfather. His grandfather was not old but was confined to a wheelchair. The grandfathers face was badly scared and had a difficult time swallowing food. Each day the young boy was assigned to feed his grandfather, he did it faithfully but not joyously. He became a teenage and announced to his mother that he is done with feeding his grandfather. The mother turned from doing her chores and said have a seat. Your grandfather was once an athlete at one time. The mother stated their was a fire; your father thought you were upstairs with me, I thought you were downstairs with him; we both rushed out of the house. Your grandfather realizes the error and returns to the house to get you. The young turned took the food tray and feed his grandfather with no further complaints.


Once we understand why that person acts that way.

Compassion shows up with perseverance to understand someone.

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